A Reciprocal Relationship

By: Darren Mann

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Volunteering with seniors provides a unique opportunity to experience a generation before you. A time without internet and non-stop scrolling on your phone. A time when rock and roll and disco dominated the music scene. But above all else volunteering with seniors allows both the volunteer and senior to learn from one another. This learning that occurs is not always superficial details but can help you to reflect on the avenues and passions in your life that you want to pursue.

Although the two of you may have had very different experiences in life, in my experience there will always be at least one or two commonalities. That’s why volunteering with seniors has helped me to understand that sometimes the most important thing you can do is listen. Listen to the stories being told and listen to the wisdom that is being offered. Use what is being said and apply the senior’s knowledge to your own life.

Moreover, it is important to recognize that some individuals may be suffering from Alzheimer’s Disease or dementia, but my advice is still the same. Listen. Even though the same story may be told there may be new details that are brought to mind, and it can be comforting for an individual to remember some key moments from their lives. Additionally, I know from a first-hand experience how scary Alzheimer’s can be for an individual suffering from it. In my experience talking through these feelings with a resident or a grandparent can help ease some of the anxiety that they may feel from their disorientation.

I have been very fortunate to volunteer at a long-term care facility for the past 5 years and experience the wisdom of the residents. Through my volunteering I have met teachers, bus drivers, engineers, scientists, programmers, janitors, and various professionals. Similarly, I have been able to meet individuals from all over the world and have been able to share and discuss their cultures and ways of life. Building these connections has been very gratifying as residents will often stop me when I am in the building to have a quick chat about what is new and exciting in both of our lives. Therefore, I challenge you to be patient and hear the voices of seniors in our community to break down the stereotypes and build lasting friendships.